I’ll admit it, I’ve been suffering from blogger’s block lately.
When I first started Business Plus Baby there were hardly any books or resources for mums wanting to start businesses. In fact that was the reason WHY I started BPB.
Now, just over two years on, there are tons of resources for parents in business including books, networking groups and conferences. I’m still passionate about helping parents grow businesses so they can have the freedom to both work and spend time with their families, but did I still have anything useful to say? It seemed that every week I found another blog for mumpreneurs. Are we all just pumping out the same old information? Where should I go from here?
As ever, I had loads of ideas for new online projects – some were linked to being a parent with a business, but quite a few were not. I didn’t know which ones to run with and which to drop. I’m still sifting through my options and although I’m still not 100% sure which path I’m going to take, I’m getting there.
Here’s a message that I picked up as I’ve been deciding where to go next:
If you look at everything you COULD do, you start weighing up projects that would be great if only you had the time, the money, the energy and the connections. That only makes you frustrated and resentful.
Look at what you can do with what you’ve got right now. Look inside at your talents, your assets and the connections you have instead of looking out at what everyone else is doing.
Simplify. Start from where you are and WHO you are.
- Adam Baker at Man vs Debt blogs about how, in his early twenties, he and his wife had eighty thousand dollars in non-mortgage debt (yes, before they even bought a house). They realised that, even though it was normal for Americans of their ages to have that much debt, it was completely crazy. Instead, they started living their lives according to their motto ‘Sell Your Crap… Pay Off Your Debt… Do What You Love…’ They say their message to the world is “The first step to living a life of passion and purpose is to remove the barriers that hold you back”. If you want to know how to simplify your life and get back in control of your finances, Man vs Debt is a great place to go.
- Marianne Cantwell of Free Range Humans helps people escape the ‘corporate cage’. I was vaguely aware of her for a while but didn’t really tune in – after all, I was sprung from my corporate cage a few years ago by my newborn baby! But when I heard her talking about ‘cage thinking’ I started to take notice. This is when people resign from their corporate jobs in search of freedom only to find they are still pretty miserable. Marianne explained that although you’re now self employed, often you take your mindset with you and that leads you to create the same kind of working life you had before. For example, I noticed that I was still working as if I had to show up at my desk a fixed number of hours per day, which meant that I still had that ‘paid by the hour’ mentality. Maybe you’re still suffering from cage thinking, too?
- Someone else I admire is artist and teacher Amelia Critchlow. Amelia blogs at 101 Bird Tales about art and living creatively. In her post Why my art is aligned with my very core and the power of stories she says:
“I wish to be one of those at the forefront of a new movement that says we can. Being dependent, or earning menial wages for menial work because I am a mother who works part time (there is still a pay gap for women and those who work part time) is not something I wanted to be party to. How and where I earn my money should be – and is – of importance to me. I wish to be free from reliance on others, whilst learning how to be reliant on myself.”
- I don’t need to say anything about this next post – the photo says it all. If you want any convincing that being yourself is the best (and the only) way to be, read How to be badass from the fabulous Karen Gunton at Build a Little Biz.
I started Business Plus Baby with the question “I can’t leave my baby in full-time childcare and got back to work – what the hell do I do now?”. Two and a half years later, I’m no longer just plugging the gap left by my old career, I want to build a flexible working life on my own terms. A life that means I never have to go back to employment (unless I choose to, of course!), where I can spend time with my family, have financial security and do interesting, satisfying work.
Fancy joining me? I’m still not quite sure how I’ll get there but it’s definitely an interesting ride!
I’d love to hear your thoughts – drop me a comment below!